Crisis Lines

National

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Call or text 988, available 24/7
Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741, available 24/7
Veterans Crisis Line Call 988 then press 1, or text 838255

Local — Sonoma County

Sonoma County Crisis Line 707-573-3941, available 24/7
Verity (sexual assault & domestic violence) 707-545-7270, available 24/7
Becoming Independent 707-542-7070 (developmental disabilities crisis support)

Recommended Reading

For Men

No More Mr. Nice Guy Robert Glover

If you find yourself constantly accommodating others while quietly resenting it, this book is probably about you.

The Way of the Superior Man David Deida

Worth reading if you're thinking about what you actually want from your relationships and your life.

Iron John Robert Bly

About what men lose when they don't have meaningful challenge or initiation. Slower read, but it stays with you.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette

A framework for thinking about different modes of masculine energy. Useful if you're drawn to that kind of map.

Relationships

Hold Me Tight Sue Johnson

What's actually happening underneath most relationship conflict, and what to do about it.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work John Gottman

Practical. Based on decades of research. Good if you want concrete things to work on.

Anxiety & Emotional Patterns

The Anxiety and Worry Workbook Clark & Beck

A structured, workbook-style approach. Best if you want something to actively work through rather than just read.

Feeling Good David Burns

The foundational CBT book. If negative thinking patterns are running the show, start here.

Anger

The Dance of Anger Harriet Lerner

How anger works in relationships and what it's usually pointing at. Direct and practical.